BYOH: Build Your Own Happiness or How to hack your own happiness buttons.
Today, the topic is find the silver lining in life’s cloudy moments.
A long time ago, in a land, not that far away, I was having a terrible, no good, awful kind of day; circa 1995 in Peru, NE.
I had just discovered that my neighbor, whom I had thought was my friend, had thrown some clothes I had given her in the garbage. I found this out, because I noticed it outside her apartment door, while I stood outside knocking, because I was supposed to be walking her little snowflake to school. She never responded. I was livid.
So, I went on my way.
I get to the school with my little snowflake and notice that her little snowflake is already there. I thought to myself, “Well, isn’t this nice. We made arrangements for me to walk our kids to school and instead of telling me she had other plans, she went ahead without me.” I was offended.
So, I continued on my way.
It was a pleasant morning; sunny and warm. So, imagine my surprise, when I thought I felt a raindrop fall on my face. I was walking to the post office, directly under the power lines. I looked up and another drop hit me. I wiped my face and a white chalky residue appeared. I had just been, literally, shit on by some birds on the wires and this after having been, metaphorically, shit on by my so-called friend. I was devastated.
I stopped, in the middle of the street, and I began to cry.
Then, I began to laugh, at the irony of getting both literally and metaphorically shit on, in one day.
The silver lining was that I discovered that person was not my friend, so I got over her slights and I learned to never walk, directly, under power lines.
When I get down because of some nonsense that I am going through, whether it’s self-inflicted, imposed on me by other parties, or some random act of nature, I do allow myself to feel what I believe I need to feel. But, I try not to wallow.
When I feel like life is shitting on me, or when I feel like I am being inundated with cloudy days or moments, I try to find the silver lining; the good news, or the lesson in the moment.
For instance, when I, accidentally, shaved my head, I learned to always check the guard on the clippers before I use them. Haven’t given a bad haircut since. Or, the time I lost a karaoke contest, but got hired to run the karaoke show that had hosted it. Or, the time the electricity went out and I made a new friend, who got me the job I have, today.
I know these are all superficial examples, but trust me, when I say, I do try and often do find the silver lining in, even, my darkest days.
Bad things are going to happen, no matter how many happiness buttons you push; no matter how positive your outlook on life. It’s how you handle those bad things that counts. Finding the silver lining is a happiness button that can help you see a little light in those dark, stormy, moments.
Feel free, to visit my Facebook page and tell me what kind of things that you do to push your own happiness buttons or drop a line in the comments section. I would really love to hear from you.
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